No news = good news?

June 20, 2010 at 3:58 pm 3 comments

I didn’t get any phone calls canceling tomorrow’s transfer, so I am hoping that is good news. But I’m not sure if the embryologist checks on the little guys on Sundays, so I can’t be too confident.

We spent the day going on a lovely hike to prepare me for the next week or so of taking it easy. We’ve had a lot talks about what to do if this dosn’t work. Super Husband is all gung ho to do IVF again, but given how I have had such a poor response both times I’m hesitant – and rightly so. We have enough $ left in the inheritance coffers for one more go, but I’d rather put that towards adoption.

So, our worst case scenario plan involves us both getting in better shape… me shedding the 15-20 lbs of TTC weight from the last four (!) years and turning the “baby” room into an exercise room.  He is also interested in the idea of embryo adoption more than regular adoption, which suprised me. We had talked about how if we had extra embryos we would adopt them out, but the bleeding-heart libral pro-choice hippie in me has a hard time reconciling the fact that the embryo adoption “industry” seems to be driven by super-conservative right-to-lifers who call the stored embryos “babies living in liquid nitrogen.” 

But I do like the idea that the embryos were created out of love and hope and desire for a family. Clearly it is something I need to do a little more research on.

(fingers crossed that I don’t have to…)

Edited to add:  Perhaps I need to clarify that we do not have frozen embryos to donate. We would be on the recieving end. Comments telling me where I can donate my frozen embryos will be deleted.


Entry filed under: IVF #2 - the cycle of hope and happiness.

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3 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Craig R. Sweet, M.D.  |  June 21, 2010 at 8:56 am

    I hope the transfer today goes well. Any extra embryos should be cryopreserved. The best use of them would be to expand your family. If you don’t get pregnant, a frozen embryo transfer can make a great deal of sense. If you do get pregnant and deliver and you still want more, you can use the embryos yourself.

    If you don’t want your embryos, you can usually donate them to science, destroy them (depending on the practice) or donate them to needy patients. I agree that the embryo donation “industry” is a bit religious but this is not true for all. Please take a look at our facility, Embryo Donation International, a Division of Specialists In Reproductive Medicine & Surgery at I recently sent out a press release and letters to the editors against the “Industry” for inappropriately using the phrase “Embryo Adoption” rather than “Embryo Donation”. You can review the comments from the home page under “In The News”.

    So, first see how it all goes. Second, use the embryos for your own if you can or want to. Lastly, consider donating them to a needed patient/couple in a facility that doesn’t discriminate with regards to race, religion, marital status or sexual preference understanding that you may stipulate what kind of patients may receive your embryos if you so choose. Good luck!

  • 2. Adele  |  June 21, 2010 at 9:33 am

    I’m so very much crossing fingers that it’s a moot point, and the research will be unnecessary. And I’m taking no news as very good news. I’m thinking good thoughts for you.

  • 3. Kate (Bee In The Bonnet)  |  June 21, 2010 at 10:36 am

    here’s hoping that today brings the best possible news!

    I have had similar conversations with H regarding embryo adoption– I would love to find a home for the three frosties we have (though they weren’t the best quality or anything, so they possibly wouldn’t even survive the thaw…), but I cannot bear to be “in bed” with the right wing nut jobs that deal in embryo adoption. Frankly, in the same way that some agencies only deal with Christian couples, I’d prefer to only adopt mine out to an atheist couple, honestly! Ah, well. Moot at this point…

    Anyhow, thinking of you today and hoping for the best!


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After 5 IUIs, 2 IVFs, and the diagnosis of diminished ovarian reserve at the ripe old age of 29, I am now looking for information on embryo donation and adoption. I'm taking a break from blogging but will return when our path out of the world of IF becomes more clear.

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