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Comment on Post #97 by Jem

Jem — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 23:05:44 +0000

I know what you mean about not wanting to read pregant blogs. It’s just too painful. Check out the list of blogs I read (probably the same ones you do). Most of them are not PG.

Comment on Post #97 by Womb For Improvement

Womb For Improvement — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:25:04 +0000

Hmm. Not sure who you read at the moment but Nut In May http://nutsinmay.wordpress.com/ writes exceptionally well, combining humour with heartache.

Comment on ooooommmmm by Womb For Improvement

Womb For Improvement — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:49:50 +0000

I can sympathise with every part of this post. The cash I’ve sunk into acupuncture, the conversations with people who got pregnant whilst on birth control. Good knowledge on the OPKs.

Comment on ooooommmmm by Kate (Bee In The Bonnet)

Kate (Bee In The Bonnet) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:51:07 +0000

Ugh, I HATED OPKs. I was never able to tell whether it was working or not. It sounds like buying the digital was a good move.

And I still ask myself that question all the time- is this the one, the one in which I place my hopes? Because while I am so incredibly grateful, the fact is that ICSI pregnancies (by nature of what causes someone to use ICSI– likely genetically unsound sperm) are far more tenuous. I wonder what it will feel like when I have to go back and quietly tell the whole world that I’m not pregnant anymore (because despite my intent to keep it quiet, I’ve begun to have some sort of verbal diarrhea, and I cannot stop myself from telling strangers that I’m pregnant. With twins. Even though it is so so so so early, and I have one that very clearly does not look right. It’s so stupid, and I feel so guilty and dumb every time I open my mouth, but for some reason, I can’t stop myself. Stupid.).

Anyhow, I do wonder about the effect of acupuncture. I’ve heard such very good things from people, and to me, it makes sense, even Western-medicine-wise. I saw a direct effect on my PCOS by quitting work and running (and generally managing my diet and stress levels better). It stands to reason that if your stress hormones are all wacky for whatever reason, they’ll throw off your reproductive hormones, too. So, if people report extreme relaxation after acupuncture (as I often hear), it makes sense that your cortisol levels go down, and your body can function reproductively closer to what it should.

So I say that if the acupuncture feels right, then stick with it.

And oh, GOD. I can only imagine the special brand of hell that was sitting in a college classroom full of blush-faced co-eds quietly admitting to their birth control mistakes. Un-fucking-fair. Just bullshit. I’m so sorry you’re having to endure that. And I’m also so sorry for being another person in your world who somehow got lucky when you didn’t. It’s just so not fair.

As my very fertile friend told me once, “if I could give it to you, I would”. And if the world worked that way, you know I would pass off the preggo luck, send it straight westward. While I can’t do that, at the very least, please know that I’m thinking of you. I’m hesitant to comment more often because I don’t want to cause any more grief in your life, so please, PLEASE let me know if you want me to stop leaving comments here. I really promise that I’d understand.

Anyhow, here’s hoping that the inferti.lity cure acupuncture is your golden ticket to increased fertility!

Comment on ooooommmmm by Missy

Missy — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 00:53:10 +0000

We never know what will actually work. One thing that’s making me consider accupuncture is just the relaxation benefits. Not that stress is causing IF, but that destressing is good for your own mental health. I think we all reach a point where it seems IF is taking over our life and that is when we need to pull back.

Comment on ooooommmmm by Lea

Lea — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:22:33 +0000

“How do I know that this is the thing to invest hope in?”
I wonder this same thing all.the.time. It’s so hard to know. In fact, we don’t know. We have NO IDEA. But I know there are many people that have made it out of this IF hell and something had to work for them. So, I just keep trying.

I hope this is the thing that works for you. It sounds like a lot of work, but it also sounds really good. Especially the acu and massage! Wishing you tons of luck.

Oh, and thanks for the movie suggestions!

Comment on Biding my time by Womb For Improvement

Womb For Improvement — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:22:10 +0000

You do sound like you need a bit of healing, rest and recuperation. Take care.

Comment on Biding my time by Kate (Bee In The Bonnet)

Kate (Bee In The Bonnet) — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 13:17:36 +0000

Oh, dude. Sounds rough! I’m so sorry you’re hurt like that! Awful, awful, awful. And I’m sorry the recovery from the cycle is wreaking such havoc on your system. That’s just sucky.

I keep trying to temper the husband’s excitement, but it’s like they just don’t get it. I mean, even a positive beta isn’t a guarantee that you’ll bring home a baby.

I want to say more, but I am at effing work right now, but I do want to mention that I will probably be coming to your lovely city for the Thanksgiving holiday, if you and SuperHusband might be around and we might happen to cross paths…

Feel better, dude. I’m hoping you get some positive answers from the Fert.ility Cure accupuncturists.

Comment on Biding my time by Pundelina

Pundelina — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 10:07:18 +0000

The IVF mucked up my cycle last time – I only had a 12 day luteal phase and then I didn’t ovulate til CD17. Way late for me. Hope your body finds its way back into whack soon.

Comment on Biding my time by Io

Io — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 02:19:51 +0000

Oh dear! Ass over teacups! (Okay, I have never heard this before and it is awesome, although the fact that it happened to you is not.)
I hope you feel better soon – both physically and emotionally. I’m glad your husband at least is starting to understand a bit, though it’s too bad that understanding probably comes with a lot of pain.